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Open Eye Hypnosis and Becoming a Master Communicator
Can we be hypnotized and be unaware that it is happening? Can we learn how to hypnotize and speak to others’ subconscious minds covertly? The answer is absolutely yes. I must caution that the quest to master and study the communication skills that allow you to do this should be a noble and righteous one. The reason for being interested in how to do this is expectantly rooted in wanting to improve your personal and professional relationships and improve the lives of those around you. These techniques take years to master but here is an overview and some tips that you can apply today to greatly improve how you communicate with others.
Neuro Linguistic Programming or NLP was developed by Richard Bandler and John Grinder in the 1970’s. In a nutshell, they found that particular words and sentence structures facilitated the acceptance of therapeutic suggestions. They later discovered that everyone follows a map when making decisions in life. Simply put, we filter information through our personalized perception based on our experiences. If you combine these two techniques, you discover how to communicate with yourself and others on a whole new level. Of course, marketing professionals and sales professionals have been applying these techniques for years. For example, if you have ever taken a survey on a social media site to find out what kind of Spirit Animal you would be or What Ancient Warrior you where in a past life, that is a technique to gather information on how you make decisions, and it provides the marketing company highly sensitive data about exactly how you make decisions. That sensitive data can be used to market directly to you and make their ads irresistible to you. Another example is in sales, where the sales person works you into a Yes Mindset by asking you questions that keep you answering yes right up until the big close. There are countless ways that Indirect Hypnosis and NLP are being used to separate you from your dollars and gather critical data about how you make decisions.
Let’s explore some ways that you can begin to implement Indirect Hypnosis and NLP to improve your relationships, increase productivity and help you attain the life you truly desire. To begin, there are some important things to know about how people make decisions. First, let’s explore how a person’s brain works when making decisions. Do you ever find that some people are easier to understand than others? This is actually based on our personal representational system. Every individual has a preferred way of taking in information. Each of us prefers to learn and make decisions in one of the following ways:
• Visually: Someone shows you how to do it
• External Auditory Explanation: Someone tells you how to do it
• Internal Auditory Explanation: You talk yourself through how to do it
• Kinesthetic: You learn by physically doing something
These can be referred to as our meta-model which demonstrates how we process information. In NLP, Meta-Models are used to describe and show how we …
• Gather Information
• Decide on Preferences
• Deal with Stress
• React to Situations
• Make Decisions
So how can you begin to understand how the person you are communicating with accesses their Meta-Model? Here are some covert techniques to help you better adapt your communication style to become a master communicator. If you pay attention, you can find that people will give a clue to how their information is stored. That clue can be discovered by studying their eye movements. Simply ask them about something that happened and study how they access the information. You can tell if they are a visual, external auditory learner (preferred to be told how), internal auditory learner (talk themselves through it), or kinesthetic (prefer to learn by doing).
• Visual: They will look up and to your right
• External Auditory: They will look sideways and to your right
• Kinestetic: They will look down and to your left
• Internal Auditory: They will look down and to your right
Another powerful way to know if you are communicating with someone who is visual, auditory or kinesthetic is to listen to the words they use when speaking. Below are some examples of descriptive techniques to notice when listening that will give you valuable information. Humans store memories as a series of images, sounds and feelings. As a person talks they will choose a representational system and give you a clue to whether they are remembering a story through images, sounds and feelings. Below are some patterns to look for…
Visual People Talk about • Color • Two or Three Dimensional • Location • Distance • Size • Brightness • Contrast
Auditory People Talk about • Volume (Loud or Soft) • Sounds • Tone • Tempo • Distance from sound • Clarity (clear or muffled)
Kinesthetic People Talk about • Pressure • Textures • Intensity • Weight • Temperature • Shape • Emotions (I Felt)
This is just the tip of the iceberg, but a very practical way to begin honing your master communicator skills. If you want to get someone to understand, believe, or agree with you, you must discover and then communicate in their model. Secondly, another technique that will aid you on your journey to becoming a master communicator is rapport building. Now, we have all heard about building rapport but this is beyond simply finding common ground such as a sports team or children and connecting on that single subject. In the application of covert hypnotism this refers to matching and mirroring. One caveat is that this must be done without the knowledge of the person you are communicating with and it takes practice and patience. Mirroring is defined as when you copy someone else’s behavior: movement, body position, hand gestures, tone of language, etc. A clear example of mirroring is seen when a couple naturally completes each other’s sentences. They are so in tune they actually seem to read the others thoughts. With matching you want to begin to actually match their breathing, their blinking and the speed at which they are talking. As you become even more skilled you can begin to insert a few of the phrases they are using. Again, it is vital that this is not obvious and done outside of the persons perception.
In Hypnosis we use these techniques to help others achieve trance like states simply through conversation, allowing us to access the subconscious and deliver suggestions that aid the client in reaching their goals. Our subconscious mind is controlling our behavior over 90% of the time. It is the powerhouse of human behavior. Covert hypnosis can help to establish an indirect connection to the subconscious mind through speech patterns and movement. It takes many years and much training to master the techniques of NLP and Hypnotism. In a conclusion, you can be hypnotized by someone against your will and without your knowledge, but it is not an easy process and requires high hypnotic abilities from the hypnotist. Although it is most likely that a professional hypnotist would only use such techniques in a professional environment to support you in your goals, the techniques we have covered here are meant to support you in improving your relationships and life as a whole. I encourage you to continue your study of hypnosis and NLP to not only improve your communication skills, but to improve your personal happiness and life in ways that are truly magical. Please visit www.bethsnyderhypnosis.com to learn about how hypnosis can improve your life & help you to become a master communicator.